Settle in and grab the tissues for this beautiful guest post, courtesy of my hubby for Father’s Day
Panic: A Father’s Perspective
My wife and I waited 12 years for our first child. 12 years of marriage. 12 years of patiently waiting for children. That’s 4,380 days. 105,120 hours. That’s a long time—to wait, to hope, to continue to keep the faith. Well, we just celebrated 15 years of marriage and now have two beauties—whiz-bang and sleepy—Faith and Hope.
But before I tell you any more, let me tell you something I feel quite silly about. Before the glow of being told about our second being on the way dimmed, I began to really worry—would there be enough love for two? It sounds like a stupid thought to parents of children—but perhaps not to you parents of a child.
I was in a bit of a state of panic. I just couldn’t shake the worry. So for nearly eight months I lived with the concern—sharing it with my wife, the trees, some friends—whomever and whatever. I was seeking emotional equilibrium and harmony, and some validation that what I was feeling would pass and that indeed there would be enough room in my heart for two.
But it didn’t. Then it did.
It did on May 13, 2013 at 10:05 pm—that’s when my second daughter was born. Lily Hope. In an instant—no, a microsecond—a heart once made for one child suddenly swelled to make room for two. Instantly, at the sight of our second baby, I understood that love grows. How it grows I can’t say. Instantly? Yes. Love is exponential. It soars. I can see now that a lot of love we control but some love blossoms big, wide, expansive. The love of a father is different, complex, interesting. It can be a ship at sea. It can be a ship in harbor—brooding, swelling, endless, or content and anchored.
In hindsight I can now see I was worried about the wrong thing. As the dad, I should have been worried about all the money we would spend to accommodate this new bundle of love—car seats, clothes (for you moms out there it’s opposite seasons for our two girls), and even a new bigger stroller. Fortunately, my wife got a great sale on a stroller from Sears—with room for … three? No—two it is, I am told.
With Father’s Day coming up in a few days, I’ve been reflecting on what a wonderful gift family really is—even when it was just husband and wife, or husband, wife and child, or now our growing brood. And I wouldn’t change a step in this marvelous journey. For that, I thank my beautiful wife and my two children.
Thanks to Sears Baby’s Room for encouraging Dad to share this month! I’m so touched by what he shared! I’m going to have to step up Father’s Day this year I think! Perhaps I’ll find something in store during Sears Days!
When: June 13th – 23rd inclusive
Where: Sears Canada locations and online at sears.ca – including brands
in The Baby’s Room
How: Spend $50 on June 13-16 or June 21-23 and get $10 in Sears Bucks to
spend on your next purchase (between June 24-27). See in store for more
Disclosure: I am part of the Sears The Baby’s Room Ambassador program with Mom Central Canada and I receive special perks as part of my affiliation with this group. The opinions on this blog are my own.”