In our home we have taken a somewhat unique approach to having our daughter choose to obey. Â Trust me, this does not mean we do not tell Poppet “no”. Rather it is our attempt to change her “no’s” into something a whole lot more positive. We give her alternatives and have her repeat them after us. “Yes”, “Good Girl”, “Sorry”, “Please” – all are part of her regular day-to-day vocabulary.
They say it takes 21 days to form a habit. With a toddler I’m pretty sure it is likely a lot shorter of a period. Habits, good or bad, seem to be picked up by Poppet with ease, and so we try to use this window of opportunity to form her character and personality toward the positive and giving way of life. Â She is the happier for it, and we are the less stressed for it!
So how does it work? Â Well, Poppet may be running around the house saying, “No, no, no, no, no, no…..” Â I will turn to her and say “Poppet?” Â and when she looks at me I say, “Say, Yes”. Â That’s all there is to it! Â She will then go around the house saying, “yes, yes, yes, yes, yes….”
When she sits in time out we will have her say, “Sorry” when she comes out of it to whomever she has caused trouble for. Â She says please and thank you with ease. Â People have been amazed at her vocabulary. Â She uttered her first word at 4 months, and hasn’t stopped since! Â So it’s actually pretty easy to “guide” her into a positive take on life at this point.
What do you do with your kids when you need to adjust their steps and attitude? Â What have you found works, and what truly doesn’t?
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